He forgot your birthday.
Your anniversary went by unnoticed.
Dates are important to most women. They have to be. We manage homes and schedules, juggling appointments and activities every week. We are in tune with the days of the week and the activities of each day. We are wired to remember.
Men are wired to forget. Not really, but in all seriousness men really do forget more than women.
So what's a wife to do when her beau forgets that special day?
In our mind it's one day. They can't manage to remember one day. On the flip side it is one day. Out of 365 it's one day. Out of ten years it's one day. Our disappointment is natural but we must push through the emotions of disappointment and extend grace. It might not be deserved but that is the very essence of grace.
How Often Do We Forget Him?
I can't help but think how often we forget Him. Not our husbands, but our Savior. Sure we remember Him at Christmas and Easter and when life is falling part but what about the other days? How often do we forget Him in the busyness of life? Yet still He stands, arms wide open waiting for us to remember. And when we finally do, He greets us with a smile and accepts our apology knowing full well, we'll do it again.
What a beautiful example of how we should treat our husbands when they forget.
Over the past 12 years, my husband has forgotten at least one anniversary and one birthday. I can't recall how the birthday debacle went but my extension of grace was less than stellar when he forgot our anniversary. I have made the choice to behave differently these days. In his excitement to go on a local hunting trip, I was prepared for a forgotten birthday this year. I talked to God about it and resolved that if he forgot, I'd just make him do the dishes for a week. Ha! All kidding aside, I made up my mind that I wouldn't bring it up unless it came up and I'd show him grace this time.
To my delight, he did not forget and got me a darling cake which we shared with friends at the “hunting camper.” We ladies crashed the man's weekend, at his request to celebrate my birthday. Had I been mad that I didn't get a call first thing in the morning or yelled at him when he did call who knows how the day would have turned out.
There is nothing wrong with expressing your desire to have a special celebration but don't put all the pressure on him. If receiving gifts or acts of service are your primary love language, then let him know. Send him a text reminder a month before that special day. Write it in his planner or put a note in his lunch box. Help him remember you. After all, you are his helpmate. And when he forgets, extend him the grace you so desperately need.