I tossed around the idea of wearing skirts for some time. I had been (trying) to study out Scripture related to the philosophy of why many Christian women exclusively wear skirts……. But why be a skirt-wearing Christian?
My hesitation is an issue of the heart. Do I want to be an exclusive skirt-wearing Christian because the Lord is speaking to me about it, or do I want to do it because it somehow presents me in a light that I am “more Christian” or “more feminine” than others? Am I doing it because the buzz on popular Christian blogs is that skirt-wearing is the way to go as good, Christian woman?
Attaining an Image
In my mind sometimes, when I see a woman wearing a modest skirt and looking very feminine, I think how gentle and kind she must be. She must be a good housewife, willfully submitting to her husband and baking cookies every Thursday for the kids after homeschool. Her life must be simple and drama free. I mean she must be perfect, right?
The Lord has shown me that, for a long time, I have had this vision of skirt-wearing women. I liken them to Caroline from Little House on the Prairie and the life played out on television. There has been a draw in me toward that era in time when life was simple and chivalry wasn't dead.
But the Lord has asked me to ask myself the hard questions: Do I think being a skirt-wearing Christian will change my life? Do I think skirt-wearing will change my heart and make me a better Christian?
Changing My Life
Could skirt-wearing change my life? I see it as skirt-wearing is a change in my life. An outward expression of the unique femininity that I have created by God. In a world where the gender lines seem to be blurring more and more every day, skirt-wearing is a celebration of being feminine that the world can see.
Skirt-wearing is not going to magically throw me into a blissful land of homeschooling and cookie baking. Only the Lord can work out the details of my life and fulfill my desire to be a stay at home mom.
A Heart Change
I had a moment of revelation about skirt-wearing came to me in an unlikely place.
I was making multiple deposits for work, so I had to go inside the lobby. Waiting in line, I spotted a young lady, probably mid-30's, in a cute denim skirt with a button up sweater and a cute pair of sandals. As I mentioned above, you can guess what I thought about her. I smiled inside and thought, “If I could coordinate an outfit like that, at least I’d look better when I wore skirts!”
The Lord arranged for her stay at the window to be long and my place in line to land at the teller next to her. As the money for my deposit was being counted I overheard her say a few things that did not sound very loving, kind or Christian.
Immediately I hear the Lord say to me (to me), “Wearing a skirt does not make you a better Christian.”
This is truth.
Being a Christian has less to do with our outward appearance and more to do with the attitude of our hearts.
For out of the heart the mouth speaks.
“…..for out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks.”
God is doing great things in my life and slowly working on my attitude, my thoughts and my emotions.
Don’t misunderstand. None of us is ever going to be perfect. We will lose our patience (no matter what you read online); we will have to continually pray that the Lord keeps our hearts pure. My point is that those things draw us closer to being like Jesus.
I pass no judgment on the woman at the bank. I have no idea where she’ll spend eternity or where her heart lies. Perhaps she is a beautiful Christian woman who momentarily fell into the trap of gossip and judgment (haven’t we all?)
God put her there to speak to me.
To remind me that He ultimately wants my heart to be right and pure before him.
Skirt-wearing is not going to change my heart. It is not going to help me learn to submit to my husband and allow him to take role, as head of our home. It is not going to make me more patient or a better mom. Putting on a skirt will not make me (or you) be less judgmental or less apt to gossip about a neighbor. Wearing a skirt can be a life-changing decision, but it must be made with the right intentions.
It's a bit like listening to Christian music. It is an outward change that may indeed help you and even remind you of the woman you want to be, but, at the end of the day, the music or the skirt is not making us better. That's the job of Holy Spirit as we submit out will to God.
How Proud We Are
We must be careful that putting on a skirt does not give us a false sense of pride. If we choose to wear skirts, are we somehow better than those women who don’t wear skirts? I think this is why I struggle with wearing skirts exclusively. I want my heart to be right about the issue; I do not want it to be so people with think I'm a Christian.
“And the person who keeps all of the laws except one is as guilty as the person who has broken all of God’s laws.”
~James 2:10 (NLT)
We see in James that no matter if it’s murder, gossip, immodest dress or judgment, we are just as guilty in God’s eyes. Thank you, Lord, for sending you son to pay the price for all of our sins!
As I mentioned earlier, I have always felt a pull toward women in skirts and the idea of Little Hous Living. Yet I can see myself easily slipping into pride in this area? How about you?
Have you ever thought more highly of yourself for your modest attire over someone else’s less than appealing wardrobe?
“If anyone thinks he is something when his is nothing, he deceives himself. Each one should test his own actions. Then he can take priced in himself without comparing himself t somebody else, for each one should carry his own load.”
If we are proud of who we have become in Jesus Christ and what we have learned through Him, that is awesome. We cannot find that pride in comparing ourselves to others.
Do you wear skirts, why or why not? What has the Lord spoken to you about this issue?