There’s one opinion that doesn’t change with age, generation or style: God’s. You may not realize it but God has an opinion and it’s the one that counts. No, not about your underwear (well, maybe your underwear but that’s another post), God’s opinion about sex is Truth and we need to know, understand and adopt His opinion.
The Church's Opinion About Sex
It would be nice to think that we can look back through the ages and see a stunning cohesion between God’s people in the area of sex, sexual intimacy, and the husband-wife relationship.
Sadly, this isn’t the case.
Many well-meaning Christians have gotten it wrong. Here are a few:
“Nothing is so much to be shunned as sex relations.” ~ St. Augustine
Even the beloved Martin Luther said this about sex, “Intercourse is never without sin; but God excuses it by his grace because the estate of marriage is his work.”
Then, in modern day we have quotes like this one from John Piper:
“The heavens are telling the glory of God. We are to see it. And worship Him. So it is with the breasts of our wives. The breasts are telling the glory of God, the goodness of God, the beauty of God, and more. We are to see it. And worship Him.”
Is it any wonder we have wrong notions about sex?
It seems that even the most religious of folk have differing opinions on sex. Maybe that’s the issue, too much religion, not enough relationship and intimate understanding of Christ.
What is your church's opinion about sex, love and intimacy? I've met people who don't know what their pastor thinks about sexuality and intimacy and know pastors struggling with their denomination's encouragement of unbiblical sexual concepts.
Sadly, we don't hear enough about the God-sex connection in church settings and so we're forced to get our ideas and find answers to our questions from the world…and Google.
Your Opinion About Sex
Where did you get your opinion about sex? As we went around the group sharing where we first learned about sex it amazed me how many in this small group learned about sex and sexuality through television, movies, books and friends but very little positive was discovered in a Christian environment.
We don’t have to believe the opinions or others or even our own opinion. We can instead turn to God’s word and see what he thinks about sex. If our opinions line up, that’s awesome. If not, we have some work to do in our thought life.
God’s Opinion About Sex
Scripture leads us to God’s truths about sex. In Song of Solomon, we so much about sexual longing, innuendo, intimacy, desire, and passion. God would not have inspired such poetic words if he didn’t care about sexuality.
You see, sex has a bigger picture than just procreation or a good time. Sex is a mystery of the relationship between Christ and the church. (See Ephesians 5:31,32). Sex is pleasurable and sex is holy in the same sentence.
The moment we are experiencing the height of sexual pleasure we are painting a picture of the holy intimacy God desires with us. This deep uninhibited relationship is both physical and spiritual. This is why understanding God’s opinion about sex is so important.
What does God want you to know about sex?
- Sex is meant to be enjoyed
- Sex is important to the husband/wife relationship
- Sex is more than physical
- Sex is holy
Have you discovered God’s opinion about sex for yourself? I encourage you to turn to the Word. If you need something to jump start your study pick up a copy of Passion Pursuit and grab a friend. Do this study together or if you’re willing, start a Passion Pursuit study at your church.
Cementing The Truth
It’s one thing to understand what the Bible says, it’s another thing to embrace that truth and make it your reality. What is true in our heads is not Truth (capital T) unless it is so established in us that we live it out. The best way to cement the truth is to get rid of wrong thinking. This is a daily, ongoing process.
It involves not just adopting God’s opinion but recognizing the lies you believe and learning to refute them with God’s truth. The enemy’s lies about our sexuality can be glaringly obvious or subtle. Lies like,
- I’m beyond redemption
- God really doesn’t care about my sex life
- I can handle this myself
- Men can’t be trusted
- Sex is just part of my marriage duty,
Will destroy your intimacy until they are exposed and replaced with truth.
What lies have you believed about your sexuality? I encourage you to take your opinions about sex to God and ask him to expose the lies. Search scripture to find the truth for you. Grab Passion Pursuit and study in depth what God’s word said about sex.