I once met a precious 20-something woman. She has a relationship with God, two adorable little girls, a handsome husband, a good church family, and …. a past that read like a good storyline for a made for TV movie. She shared her story with some 200 women at a ladies event I attended. It went something like this: Fatherless […]
Yes, Monogamy Is Hard Work But I Know Something Harder
There’s no denying that living with the same person in a monogamous relationship for decades is hard work. We don’t always see eye to eye, maybe we have a false sense that we’re not sexually compatible, or we think we’re going to get board. It means fighting temptation, doing the right thing, denying self and […]
Why You Should Be Honest With Your Spouse About Your Past
If you have a checkered sexual past it can be humbling and scary to talk about it with your spouse or future spouse. No one wants to share intimate details about their life that are painful or paint them as less than perfect, especially with someone who may have had a pain and drama-free past. […]
The Spiritual Effects of Sexual Sin
The effects of sexual sin are far-reaching and often missed for years. You find some really crazy verses in the Bible about sexual sin! What in the world is God so worked up about? If He made our bodies and He made sex, then why does He give us rules about it? Didn’t He make […]
5 Practical Tips For Restoring Sexual Integrity
Sexually integrity means more than waiting until the veil goes back to have sexual intercourse. Sexual integrity, which includes modesty and purity, reaches broad and wide into many areas of your life, like roots of a firmly established tree. If you’ve been living a sexually impure life how can you change? Is it too late? Will […]
The Sercret to Overcoming the Past
It wasn’t until my mid-twenties that I realized I needed help overcoming the past. I had fooled myself into believing the absence of my father, the death of my grandfather, and the break-up with my only high school boyfriend had no effect on my life. Then, when I realized the depths of hurt I had […]
Can Talking about Sex Make You Sin
Can talking about sex make you sin? It seems this is a popular belief among some Christians and I was surprised by the backlash that comes from standing up for truth and exposing evil. Well, sort of surprised. When believers stand up to say, “Hey wait, I think this might be a slippery slope,” or, “Hey […]
God’s Green Light On A Sexy Marriage
Where the spirit of the Lord is there is freedom. Those lyrics came to me when I was working on this post. I’m sure you would agree that the spirit of the Lord should be present in our lives every day. He leads and guides us as we navigate life. But do you believe that the […]
Should Christians Use Sex Toys
Should Christians use sex toys? The question came to me from a reader who is unsure of how to feel about the use of sex toys between married couples. This is another topic often skirted past by women’s ministry leaders, pastors, and bloggers but it is a valid and important question to explore. Much like […]
God’s Yes’s and No’s for Sex
Wouldn’t it be amazing if we could quote chapter and verse for the things that are biblically permissible and biblically forbidden when it comes to sex? A nice neatly packaged passage of scripture would set our minds at ease. And if you’re like me, a detailed list of do’s and don’ts fits well into my […]