It wasn't until my mid-twenties that I realized I needed help overcoming the past. I had fooled myself into believing the absence of my father, the death of my grandfather, and the break-up with my only high school boyfriend had no effect on my life. Then, when I realized the depths of hurt I had accumulated in my soul, I knew overcoming the past would be harder than I thought. My past was like an ugly shadow that followed me wherever I went. I could see it in the mirror. I could feel it hovering over me when soul was longing for peace.
It took much study, prayer, and intentional changes to overcome my past. I had to work through bitterness, distrust, worry, anger, fear and failure. One underlying thread connected all of my issues, keeping me bound in what felt like chains.
Thankfully, what looks like chains to man is a mere thread to God.
It's time for you to get serious about overcoming the past, no matter what the past looked like. the secret to overcoming all that is holding you back: forgiveness.
Yes, forgiveness is the key to overcoming the past.
Forgiveness is often overlooked or at least brushed by when one is looking for healing but it's the secret to truly thriving in life and living free whatever happened. Forgiveness is the hinge on the door of healing. When we hold on to transgressions we cannot move forward. They are nooses on the necks of many Christians who are saved but not living thriving lives.
As far as the east is from the west, so far hath he removed our transgressions from us.
~ Psalm 103:12
As I dug into forgiveness I realized there are three phases of forgiveness that we must walk through.
- Accepting Forgiveness
- Forgiving Others
- Forgiving Yourself
Accepting forgiveness is the process of realizing nothing you've done is above God's mercy, nor can it keep you from His love.
Forgiving others means releasing them from the wrongs they committed, no matter how bad.
Forgiving yourself allows you to walk fully in God's grace without self-condemnation.
Part of overcoming the past is the revelation of identity that says you are precious, worth a high price. Nothing you've done or been through can keep the Father's love from you. You are forgiven, accept it. You can forgive, extend it. You can let you off the hook, do it! In Restoring the Lost Petal I go into detail on each one of these levels of forgiveness sharing what I learned through my journey of healing. Each level has an accompanying prayer to guide you through release and restoration as you work on overcoming the past.
Overcoming the past is not easy but the freedom you’ll experience is worth it. Start today, seek healing, extend forgiveness and accept who you are in Christ.